Domestic Violence Safety Plan
Make a plan with your family, this should include having "safe words." A safe word is a word that someone can use to a member of the family to signify that it is okay to go with them. This is generally used with children, and allows the child to trust in the adult sent to them, knowing that the adult was sent by another family member.
Make sure your children's school, day-care or camp know who is authorized to pick up your children. And tell the people around you about someone you want to keep away. You do not need to say why, just ask them to keep an eye out or be aware.
Safety in Public or at Work:
- If you have an order of protection, keep it with you at all times.
- Inform building security and co-workers you trust of your situation.
- Provide a photo of your abuser to security if possible.
- Vary your routes to and from work and arrange for someone to escort you to your car, bus, or train.
- Plan what to do in various situations if the abuser confronts you (the Cambridge Police offer a Rape Aggression Defense class that may be of service in this situation).
Safety during Volatile Domestic Violence Incident:
- If an argument seems unavoidable, move to a room or area with easy access to an exit - not a bathroom, kitchen or anywhere near weapons.
- Identify which door, window, elevator or stairwell offers the quickest way out of the home and practice your route to make sure it is accessible and clear of debris.
- Have a bag packed and ready. Keep it in an undisclosed but accessible place where you can retrieve it quickly.
- Ask neighbors to call police if they hear a disturbance from your residence.
- Devise a code word to use with your children, family, and friends when you need the police.
- Decide where you will go if you have to leave, even if you do not think it will come to that
- Remember... You have the right to defend yourself when you are in danger. You do not deserve to be battered or threatened.
For further information call:
911 If you are in immediate danger
(617) 349-3371 (Cambridge Police Domestic Violence Unit)
(617) 666-2101 (Middlesex District Attorney Martha Coakley)
(617) 679-6631 (Victims and Witness Assistance at district courthouse for Cambridge)
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